When you feel like no one understands what you’re going through… I do. When you feel like you just can’t anymore… you can. And when when you don’t have the words to express “how it’s going” feel free to share these words.
Instead of telling a new mom she looks good, why don’t we ask about the elephant in the room? How is it going so far? How is your transition into motherhood been? How can I help? You know why we don’t ask questions like these? Because we are afraid of the truth. The authentic truth. And this fear hurts us as new mummas.
We expect motherhood to be this beautiful happy life that we should embrace every moment of. But the truth is…it’s hard, really hard. All of it. Getting pregnant, losing a baby, carrying to full term, labor and delivery, recovery while taking care of a new human you just met and are trying to figure out how to keep alive, breastfeeding, leaving your job to become a stay at home mom and yes going back to work.
IT’S ALL SO HARD.
But that’s OK. You’re not alone. We all have our challenges. That’s why we need to be real with one another.
It’s OK to need help. It’s good to ask for help, and it’s best to learn how to communicate “I need help.” Having a baby changes every relationship you have and this in turn makes communicating more of a challenge.
So if you find your sleep deprived self without the words to express how you feel,
here’s a start (…take a look!)
…and if you asked me those honest questions when I became a Mumma, this is what I would have told you…